tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.comments2024-02-23T10:00:32.673-06:00the happy hausfrauthe_happy_hausfrauhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comBlogger7406125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-49656591983118690622024-01-13T22:04:56.217-06:002024-01-13T22:04:56.217-06:00I've read your posts on Facebook since my divo...I've read your posts on Facebook since my divorce in 2009. Your writing helped me more than I can express. I've also followed Traci over the years. You both are very talented writers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-64532236895771130162023-11-19T23:52:08.392-06:002023-11-19T23:52:08.392-06:00Brilliant read!Brilliant read!grenee229https://www.blogger.com/profile/14997338725198139106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-16349193142267274072023-11-19T23:31:35.118-06:002023-11-19T23:31:35.118-06:00I love this one!! I don't remember much from b...I love this one!! I don't remember much from back then, esp. Sharon the teacher. She was a bully of a teacher. Your writing is cathartic and I'm grateful you have persevered. grenee229https://www.blogger.com/profile/14997338725198139106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-12303506430770809852023-09-10T13:36:58.724-05:002023-09-10T13:36:58.724-05:00Your piece on what women should stop saying after ...Your piece on what women should stop saying after a certain age was how I found you, and that led me to Chumplady as well. She wasn’t posting daily back then, and I read your entire blog on those mornings when I would wake up at 4am but couldn’t haul myself out of bed until the last minute when I had to get ready for work. My kids were grown and I was getting alimony, so our stories were different. But I was still keeping the cheating a secret from everyone (not anymore, though), so you and Tracy were my therapy. I can’t thank you enough, and I love reading you still and seeing that you got through the shitshow. So even a piece that you regret had some good come from it. And my headspace was so out of whack back then that I never even thought of it as ageist! Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-45826028445998030152023-08-16T16:39:01.074-05:002023-08-16T16:39:01.074-05:00I only found your blog recently because I disappea...I only found your blog recently because I disappeared into myself after the affair and didn't become me again until a few years later and it took me several after that to remember I loved blogging. Circumstances seen as identical as anything from here but many of us have similar stories. Ffion J (Parsnip 1)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03217665448904715041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-27788538533164047112023-08-07T10:49:38.962-05:002023-08-07T10:49:38.962-05:00Your blog helped me so much through my divorce and...Your blog helped me so much through my divorce and the now six years since, even though our circumstances weren't identical (although I did end up w/the short end of the financial stick, for sure). And it has taken me those full six years to accept and even lean into the fact that my life won't have the happy narrative people *want* to see (by that I mean a second marriage, etc) but I am doing what's right for me every step of the way now and I for one am so so grateful for this blog even though I didn't post routinely. I actually started crying last night because I realized it's taken me SIX YEARS to even begin to emerge from the trainwreck that was my marriage, and all of the emotional fallout. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-2299054844747321522023-06-19T23:39:28.487-05:002023-06-19T23:39:28.487-05:00Dang that Sharon! So glad you kept up the writing....Dang that Sharon! So glad you kept up the writing. Please keep writing, you make me laugh. ❤️Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-15851632586000704292023-06-18T14:53:53.582-05:002023-06-18T14:53:53.582-05:00It's true - looking back, it surprises me how ...It's true - looking back, it surprises me how small comments by teachers could have an outsize effect on me!Suburban Correspondenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11488916572135296650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-46462268730060861362023-06-12T19:00:19.169-05:002023-06-12T19:00:19.169-05:00What a powerful piece. I agree -- teens can be ho...What a powerful piece. I agree -- teens can be horrible to deal with, but as the adult Sharon should have TRIED!! I often tutor math, and, again, teachers and other adults have squashed any love of math out of these kids. So sad.... Annnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-19662222250528928842023-06-08T07:36:25.915-05:002023-06-08T07:36:25.915-05:00Haha I cut my own hair during Covid 😂 The greys ...Haha I cut my own hair during Covid 😂 The greys are actually kind of cool! They’re growing on me, literally and figuratively lol.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-73875519937594558492023-06-07T22:59:09.337-05:002023-06-07T22:59:09.337-05:00Oh hahaha you have such a way with words 🤣🤣🤣
I&...Oh hahaha you have such a way with words 🤣🤣🤣<br />I'm approaching 53 and still waiting for menopause although there are definite signs of peri so hoping it won't be long. I hear you about the greys. I stopped colouring my hair after going ham on it in the early days of COVID and ruining it lol. I've decided grey is just another hair colour and the patriarchy can bite me.kitesandkittieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02320281582708624694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-18768330391088322232023-06-07T20:48:27.807-05:002023-06-07T20:48:27.807-05:00never have I related to a stinking post more. i m...never have I related to a stinking post more. i mean not that this blog post stinks. My armpits do. I do take my clothes off in my home because hot flashes are of the devil. My mom and sisters didn’t get them but boy I do. my hair is turning silver and my belly. Lord have mercy. Anyways. i enjoy your writing and look forward to your honesty. I can’t tell you when my last period was because i had an IUD for 6 years. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-42104654715958766612023-05-16T11:00:04.173-05:002023-05-16T11:00:04.173-05:00The grimy collar in my house is red. 16 months gon...The grimy collar in my house is red. 16 months gone now. My beautiful boy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-25270162425836144922023-04-13T11:58:18.657-05:002023-04-13T11:58:18.657-05:00You need some sort of special shades that allow yo...You need some sort of special shades that allow you to see the flowers and not the roadkill! Rose-colored blinders, as it were...Suburban Correspondenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11488916572135296650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-30679000959303470052023-04-06T11:08:19.193-05:002023-04-06T11:08:19.193-05:00This is the truth that some of us live with and kn...This is the truth that some of us live with and know well, I wonder though if what we see from the celebrity couples is just a publicity smoke screen. I got dvorced last year, seperated for 7 years previous to that - only divorced becuase I had to pay for it and apparently my ex couldnt see the point of it. This from the man who is engaged to the woman he had an affair with, the one who has never paid child support, has never seen his kids to a " as he calls it rota", and who was upset because I told him that I wasnt his friend. <br />Ffion/BNMhttps://barenakedmummy.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-7532892464738676262023-04-04T18:16:19.932-05:002023-04-04T18:16:19.932-05:00So happy that you are writing the blig again. And ...So happy that you are writing the blig again. And this is such an important subject.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-57044313048618180062023-04-04T15:13:43.776-05:002023-04-04T15:13:43.776-05:00Thank you a thousand times! I'm 8 years out fr...Thank you a thousand times! I'm 8 years out from cheating, lying, financial betrayal and leaving me to raise our daughters alone. Even though I'm mostly meh about him and his cruel abuse now, not a day goes by that I don't remember him saying "Why didn't you ever become something?" (career) as I raised our kids mostly without his help when we were still together and did side hustles to earn extra money too. Men think kids raise themselves and he was fine putting us in jeopardy while he started a new life with affair partner. He's an abusive, cruel, piece of shit and my self respect says no to a friendly, post divorce relationship. A misogynistic society has already let him off scot free (lol I looked up and made sure this phrase wasn't a slur against Scottish people and it's not /liberal guilt). Love your divorce rants.Wendy P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01455666331606037716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-38213275454388635372023-04-04T06:50:13.835-05:002023-04-04T06:50:13.835-05:00Oh hell yes to all this! Oh, and on a related note...Oh hell yes to all this! Oh, and on a related note, there are also those who just know that "everyone knows" (I guess from watching Disney style movies where the divorced parents end up falling in love again and living happily ever after? I don't know 🤮) that you never, ever say anything negative to anyone about your ex or you are bitter and twisted, and people make cat noises to show you what they think of your bitter and twisted attitude. Those same people can happily trash the people they are actually married to, and that's just venting about married life. But if you do much as say "yeah, ex could never remember when the trash went out either" you'd get a well meaning lecture about how you should never talk like that about your ex <br />Deep breath. I think I've made this about me. Oops!kitesandkittieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02320281582708624694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-11755300359437509912023-04-03T19:39:50.225-05:002023-04-03T19:39:50.225-05:00Clearly I haven't been here long, so I don'...Clearly I haven't been here long, so I don't know your story and you don't know mine. I was left with 2 children under two, no career that I could fall on as a single mother, a 10K bar tab on my credit card that he accumulated in 30 days, and $7 in my bank account. I was subject to 3 years of DCF investigations because of his false claims. I had to suspend what little visits he had with his kids for their safety. I never got a voluntary dime of support and was told for years that I'd "regret it" if I asked the state to attach his wages. He stalked my kids at the bus stop, my house at 2am. Left notes on my car. He remarried 3 years after our divorce, it lasted two months, and he allegedly tried to light her on fire, starting a fire that burned a house down. Before he died (suicide) he and I had I had reached a level of "civility" if you will... but never a friendship. <br />I have friends that are super amicable. I ALWAYS remind them that they are incredibly lucky that they can be. My current husband and his ex-wife were very amicable, which was great, but hugely problematic at times because while we are both good mothers we're very DIFFERENT mothers and he never wanted to cause a rift.<br /><br />So when I tell you I get this... in my soul... know that I really do.Julihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10097214923216967086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-78792229190217513852023-04-02T20:54:53.338-05:002023-04-02T20:54:53.338-05:00My ex didn’t do half the shit yours did to you, Je...My ex didn’t do half the shit yours did to you, Jenny and I would never be friends or even friendly with him. Your writing is so powerful, my friend. Keep on preaching to the choir. Beth Van Fossennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-69976174664794929762023-04-02T19:29:53.984-05:002023-04-02T19:29:53.984-05:00Brilliant dawg!! Grateful you are back at it, on f...Brilliant dawg!! Grateful you are back at it, on fire!grenee229https://www.blogger.com/profile/14997338725198139106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-29202412926777544362023-04-02T14:38:04.621-05:002023-04-02T14:38:04.621-05:00Very well written and on point, Jenny. I can respe...Very well written and on point, Jenny. I can respect your opinion even as someone who's never been married. <br />Great to see you writing again!Connie Lahammernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-77883565671530672142023-04-02T13:32:33.205-05:002023-04-02T13:32:33.205-05:00“You don’t have to be friends with someone who has...“You don’t have to be friends with someone who has hurt you. “ This. This is empowering on so many levels. You taught your children how not to be door mats. That’s invaluable. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-46082328220137052142023-04-02T13:30:27.830-05:002023-04-02T13:30:27.830-05:00“You don’t have to be friends with someone who has...“You don’t have to be friends with someone who has hurt you.”<br /><br />Again for the people in the cheap seats (Brené Brown reference, IYKYK):<br />“You don’t have to be friends with someone who hurt you.”<br /><br />So I’m not and never will be. Thank you for this truth that needs to be spoken.<br />Allisonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-16539161165979415962023-04-02T13:23:01.085-05:002023-04-02T13:23:01.085-05:00It still sucked! Boundries up! Just had our eldest...It still sucked! Boundries up! Just had our eldest get married in Vegas. Only had to be around him for 3 hours, and we only spoke once. His mom and my sister, had my back if he would've stepped out of line. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com