tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post3312575852167649304..comments2024-02-23T10:00:32.673-06:00Comments on the happy hausfrau: Fat Ten on Fat Tuesdaythe_happy_hausfrauhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-18544926409821678242013-02-18T18:24:33.442-06:002013-02-18T18:24:33.442-06:00Hey anonymous, thank you for such a lovely, well-t...Hey anonymous, thank you for such a lovely, well-thought out and polite response! You know, I did think about this some more after I posted it and thought maybe I came across as kind of a snark. And I didn't mean to..I think a lot of us who DIDN'T choose this life, and never in a million years would have chosen to parent alone have a few tender spots in our armor...and take someone identifying themselves as "by choice" as a way to separate themselves from the slovenly herd (see? Self esteem issues are a biggie for those of us who have been through the nightmare of being dumped). <br /><br />I totally appreciate you explaining it in the way you did..makes so much sense and you did it in a way that didn't make me feel like a mean defensive girl.<br /><br />Thank you so much for stopping by and shining some needed light on this particular topic..hope you chime in again, soon!<br /><br />Jennythe_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-42668314514959639422013-02-18T16:32:46.503-06:002013-02-18T16:32:46.503-06:00All single parents share some struggles. Those who...All single parents share some struggles. Those who are single by divorce are different than those who are single by death of a spouse, although in both cases, they started out planning a loving 2 parent family. Single by choice shares some things with single by death of a spouse in that there isn't some ex hanging around, being a deadbeat, fighting for custody etc, but are still no the same. Someone recently widowed with kids looking for support might not find what they needed at the time in this blog or one identified as 'by choice' and having that in the title/info makes it easier. For someone wishing/hoping/wanting a child but not in a relationship finding the 'by choice' heading can help direct them. This is no different than saying you have teens or infants (or both). The experiences are not going to be the same. <br /><br />I don't look at it as a way to make a blogger better/worse and don't in any way see it as similar to "fat by choice". I think it's just done to help people who are looking without weeding through the thousands of possible blogs out there. The tag/description is just as useful and as nonjudgmental as the descriptions of this blog: 'divorced', 'teens' and 'tween' make it easier for someone looking for that. <br /><br />And BTW, I like this blog and am in no way slamming you, so hope it wasn't taken that way. I just found the comment took offence in something I think was not meant as such. <br /><br />Signed: A mom (no mention of # of children, marital status, sexual orientation, hair color, or which hand I write with)<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-79421117085346148932013-02-15T09:01:57.602-06:002013-02-15T09:01:57.602-06:00I'm SO jealous! But just thinking about those ...I'm SO jealous! But just thinking about those memories..man, it gives me goosebumps. I love Levi's, too. They are classic :)the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-64201317405667663402013-02-15T09:00:46.920-06:002013-02-15T09:00:46.920-06:00You are not the one who bought the Cozy Coupe, are...You are not the one who bought the Cozy Coupe, are you? I did. And you know, for all of my bitching it's still a better choice than the truck. Anything that saves me $300 a month in gas is good. Despite the suckiness.<br /><br />And OMG I miss old eBay. Miss the crap out of it.the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-38396478821544722882013-02-15T08:59:12.528-06:002013-02-15T08:59:12.528-06:00"Us divorced losers". I love you. I agr..."Us divorced losers". I love you. I agree, 100%. It's like me saying, "I'm fat by choice" to differentiate between me and the slobs who can't help it. <br /><br />I like us divorced losers. We're a pretty nice bunch.the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-65344271607627211402013-02-15T08:57:49.409-06:002013-02-15T08:57:49.409-06:00Thank you Gigi..I think it's a pretty darn goo...Thank you Gigi..I think it's a pretty darn good rep myself. the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-78522260871578100452013-02-15T06:22:00.449-06:002013-02-15T06:22:00.449-06:00Oh Ellie I didn't know you were a reader of my...Oh Ellie I didn't know you were a reader of my little lunatic blog...blushing now!<br /><br />Thank you so much. For some reason I want to beat this woman. Bad.the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-59091734541958620132013-02-15T06:21:10.275-06:002013-02-15T06:21:10.275-06:00Yay Linda! It's hard to let go but I'm fin...Yay Linda! It's hard to let go but I'm finding out that if you don't they will NEVER LEAVE. I have a manchild in my basement to prove it.<br /><br />I hope she has fun in NYC, and don't worry..any girl with the self-confidence and smarts to even WANT to go there solo will be just fine.<br /><br />Look at us, all jealous of our girls! I'm green with envy.the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-42448351617058127662013-02-15T06:19:27.189-06:002013-02-15T06:19:27.189-06:00Thanks Sil..sometimes Joan just can't be held ...Thanks Sil..sometimes Joan just can't be held back. I hate myself after she makes her appearance but I guess it's all part of showing the kids that mom is human too. Sigh.the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-68947603399218420442013-02-14T20:32:47.410-06:002013-02-14T20:32:47.410-06:00Love #3!!! What great memories she will make! I&...Love #3!!! What great memories she will make! I'm a little jealous. And as far as the mommy bloggers go, I've always loved me some Levi's. And I'm trying to remember to vote everyday. I checked out some of those other blogs, and quite frankly, I just don't get them. You rock :)Tracinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-84031457829352803432013-02-14T09:39:31.347-06:002013-02-14T09:39:31.347-06:001. Same thing over here. I live with some lazy-ass...1. Same thing over here. I live with some lazy-ass people. If it weren't for a touch of OCD, my house would be featured on A & E's Hoarders.<br />3. She will have the time of her life! I want to see the passport pic.<br />4. Are Seven For All Mankind jeans still in style? I wouldn't know; I never could fit into a pair. I did once find a maternity pair at Saver's for $4.99 that I sold on eBay for $115 back in the good old days. Ahh, the good old eBay days. Sigh.<br />5. I feel partially responsible for the Little Tykes Cozy Coupe. Maybe that damn PT Cruiser we looked at would've been better?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-21682942930641243092013-02-13T21:02:48.001-06:002013-02-13T21:02:48.001-06:00Checked out a couple of those other blogs... let&#...Checked out a couple of those other blogs... let's just say no contest! Not sure how I feel about this single mom BY CHOICE differentiation some moms are using as well that I guess distinguishes from those that do artificial insemination or adoption or something versus the rest of us divorced losers? I mean, I don't really love the term "single mom" either and it does lump in people from a bunch of different circumstances into the same group, but no matter the circumstances behind it, we are all single moms. By adding "by choice", it's like they feel the need to defend it or explain it or something right off the bat.Ericanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-1352581942053044272013-02-13T14:03:17.892-06:002013-02-13T14:03:17.892-06:00EWWW. Those blogs scare me. They're so...brand...EWWW. Those blogs scare me. They're so...branded. I love the rooster pic. Much better than some head shot of you surrounded by your perfect children like the Blessed Mother. It's a distinctively perfect representation of your blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-83482614534960506282013-02-13T12:35:29.027-06:002013-02-13T12:35:29.027-06:00I look forward to reading your blog every damn day...I look forward to reading your blog every damn day and am kind of sad when you haven't posted for a few. I am still so excited about meeting you out with my "pick Up from school ladies" a few months back. I will vote every day....you deserve it!Ellienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-74290696313236859012013-02-13T07:58:13.511-06:002013-02-13T07:58:13.511-06:00#3 made me tear up. When my 18 yr old daughter (i...#3 made me tear up. When my 18 yr old daughter (in college) told me she was thinking about buying a tkt to NYC for Spring Break and going by herself - I said No Way! More so than it's dangerous by herself, but the the money factor. Her money, by the way. Shame on me - you are right. She is creating her memories. Oh, I'll still be against it because an 18 yr old naive girl in NYC by herself is crazy but if she goes, I'll cross my fingers and admire her spirit of adventure. And be a little jealous. hahalindasilvethornenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-33734433308784037002013-02-13T07:54:12.444-06:002013-02-13T07:54:12.444-06:00Thanks for being so honest...we all have Joan Craw...Thanks for being so honest...we all have Joan Crawford moments once in a while and I can definitely relate!! Nobody's perfect. You're an awesome mom Jenny and you're doing a great job!! Silnoreply@blogger.com