tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post8962739092387679631..comments2024-02-23T10:00:32.673-06:00Comments on the happy hausfrau: So Your Kid Isn't Going To College...the_happy_hausfrauhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-11024580636906651332019-09-10T18:48:29.552-05:002019-09-10T18:48:29.552-05:00Thanks for this story - it made me feel better abo...Thanks for this story - it made me feel better about my middle child's decision to take a step back after her first year of college.Fossilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17373073056018441959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-10767278100589595602016-06-13T19:15:02.160-05:002016-06-13T19:15:02.160-05:00Really they all go (IF they go) later!Really they all go (IF they go) later!Nina Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05498476430955493398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-1937614315004798792016-06-09T23:22:50.148-05:002016-06-09T23:22:50.148-05:00Amen!!!
Waving from another western suburb. It goe...Amen!!!<br />Waving from another western suburb. It goes by two initials so I'm sure you know it. #1 was in no way ready to go to college but signed up for one semester and never attended class. #2 also was not and still isn't ready at age 24. (Insert very long story) #3 was clearly ready but wanted to take a year off to save some money. He's 20 and attended spring semester of a local college. He met a girl...I know he failed one class and am afraid to ask about the other. #4 the girl is a sophomore this fall declares she is going away to college and wants to be part of a sorority. <br />Sigh...<br />I just want them happy and healthy. This is the same wish I had for them while they were growing in my belly...<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-17987507371862906112016-06-01T10:31:33.058-05:002016-06-01T10:31:33.058-05:00Very Admirable! I think it's great, good for ...Very Admirable! I think it's great, good for your daughter. She is leaps and bounds above most of her peers!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-82484391096240328392016-05-31T17:38:26.827-05:002016-05-31T17:38:26.827-05:00I've always thought 18 was quite young to deci...I've always thought 18 was quite young to decide what you wanted to do/be with the rest of your life, so I think having a bit of time off to explore, experience and ponder what that might be is a really good idea. Too many kids to go college, ringing up $$$$$ of debt, changing majors a few times before finally deciding to delcare a major. WTH?! These days, who can afford that?? Susie Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15304406972721122883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-25298341338680789362016-05-31T10:05:09.636-05:002016-05-31T10:05:09.636-05:00This is a great post, thanks! I always say that be...This is a great post, thanks! I always say that being a plumber is where the real money is--I wish I was better with my hands! My son will be a senior next year and he wants to go to college, but he also doesn't like school. I've told him just go and try it, and it should be different. But I've also said, if he decides he doesn't like then he can leave and do something else. Each thing you try will teach you something about yourself, and better to try when you're still young and relatively unencumbered with life events. <br /><br />Sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00645650562694934549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-38611721255862513762016-05-31T08:13:52.458-05:002016-05-31T08:13:52.458-05:00"Elite" college attendance doesn't s..."Elite" college attendance doesn't seem to be the status symbol it used to be. I admire kids that figure out their own best plan. :-)Whitneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07636206212678194409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-45031030921200906032016-05-31T06:37:34.658-05:002016-05-31T06:37:34.658-05:00Great post. Every kid has to find their path in th...Great post. Every kid has to find their path in their own time for certain. My oldest just graduated as Valedictorian with a 4.37something and 50some college credits. So people assume she is going to college, maybe even Ivy League. But she is actually entering a monastery and wants to be a nun. People have no idea how to respond to that. So awkward, but I am happy for her because she is so certain of her choice.workpraysewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11372950766751605943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-75660177721425315212016-05-31T05:15:58.019-05:002016-05-31T05:15:58.019-05:00I can totally relate to using myself as a worst-ca...I can totally relate to using myself as a worst-case example for my kids LOL. I do that all the time.kitesandkittieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02320281582708624694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-8078981341779448172016-05-30T21:25:21.252-05:002016-05-30T21:25:21.252-05:00Very true! In my family, it's almost the oppos...Very true! In my family, it's almost the opposite attitude. My sister and I were seen as snobby because we went to college, in a family where our siblings and cousins largely did not go to college. And guess what? Because I stayed home with kids, my brothers who did not get degrees but worked consistently throughout their lives now make more money than I do with my private college diploma. And they love to remind me of that. <br /><br />Great post to remind people there are other paths in life to success and contentment. As a single parent, I won't have the means to pay for my kids' tuition and I don't want them to have to take out enormous loans, either. It's scary!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-23126781607311639302016-05-30T18:09:27.944-05:002016-05-30T18:09:27.944-05:00Jenny:
Loved the post. Quick question. With all t...Jenny:<br /><br />Loved the post. Quick question. With all the shady maneuvering of big daddy during the divorce, did college ever come up? Did he ever acknowledge that his kids have needs after high school? Is he supporting their choices?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-54460210370118173892016-05-30T10:45:57.457-05:002016-05-30T10:45:57.457-05:00Great Post my friend! Gosh do I have "experi...Great Post my friend! Gosh do I have "experience" in all of what you said. Which is based off my path, which was just like yours..only I worked at MatchMaker Intl. My bff, was confused , because around here, they proudly display BIG banners in their yards.. saying CONGRATS and good luck at WHATEVER COLLEGE.. she said what are we suppose to do? Order a banner that says Good Luck at Kroger as a bag boy? You just can't put that up in the esteemed neighborhoods! HA! You know our story with my daughter.. well .. she JUST announced she quit her full time job, with benefits, 401K, training.. to accept a job waitressing and going back to school , college full time. I should be thrilled right??!! But she will be 26, who pays her insurance.. I have asked who is paying for her school, because the money we had for her and our retirement went to saving her life from drugs.. but I don't get any answer from her or my husband.. so I guess that means we are paying.. what about rent? I get no answer.. I should be thrilled.. but I am thinking retirement.. vacation maybe.. our medical, we r getting older.. 2 weeks ago, we found out our son going back to school after a 3 year break. Oh yes.. I tried mention back at 18, to take a year off, mature, bank some money, take some community collage classes cheaper... no way was he buying into that.. he was seeing the dorm room decorated with his bff, the alcohol bottles lined up on top of desk. My dear husband bought into his dreams.. and got more loans for him.. even when he wasn't showing up for class.. now we are paying 600.00 a month in loans.. cause he can't pay and we cosigned. I asked if he moving home to do the community college..( only reason we r stilling living here, hoping he will come back and make some bank).. of course he isn't..his taste of freedom is too big! He doesn't like I say no, your friends can't come over after the bars close and crash.. Seems we both got used to our new norm lifestyles. He is working with the college and he will get loans and some little money from the school.. and according to him, he will graduate from the college he wanted to.. and come out with 600.00 to 800.00 a month in loans. I don't know if there is right answer.. I honestly think both my kids needed to learn what they have in these early adult years... possibly more than "book" learning. And the weirdest part is.. my husband is more understanding than me, and he has a Phd! And paid for school himself! But, I wish it was acceptable to say Good Luck at Costco! kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00270278485457022184noreply@blogger.com