tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post5838681951422144913..comments2024-02-23T10:00:32.673-06:00Comments on the happy hausfrau: Divorced And STILL Not Datingthe_happy_hausfrauhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-71182942993330745012016-03-20T02:15:00.719-05:002016-03-20T02:15:00.719-05:00I have only been divorced for around 7 months but ...I have only been divorced for around 7 months but I am extremely happy by myself. I have tried to date, just went on few dates, nothing serous, but I got disappointed. I asked those men what happened to their previous wifes/gf etc. All of them basically dumped their women for being too fat, too old, not in love with them anymore, not taking care of their appearances. Those men walked away from long term relationships and left their children as well. I decided that I am done with men and I feel much better. I feel so free, so happy. I do not have to worry about wrinkles, saggy skin, loosing muscle tone and not looking sexy anymore. Who cares. I feel liberated for the first time in my life. So ladies, just stay healthy. I lost a big chunk of my health trying to keep my ex husband happy. Hey, he still dumped me while I was ill. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-14272974688911497962015-11-27T14:04:35.565-06:002015-11-27T14:04:35.565-06:00I am late to reading these posts, but 7 years sinc...I am late to reading these posts, but 7 years since my split and still not dating is defining me. Sometimes I wish I could just have a girlfriend move in with me. Someone to share everything with even if it isn't romantic. Split the bills with and someone to zip up your dress when your unlimber arms can't do it. And keep me from being a full fledged crazy cat lady, all alone only communicating with people online. But that person is probably not out there either. I don't want romance, but I would love someone who "got" me. Laughed at my jokes, could watch movies or shows or read the same books as me so we could discuss. My plus one that enjoys me on the couch after not showering for 3 days because I am still hilarious and witty...and what else really matters? Kailuamomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17279351794829889227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-34871655828403063992015-11-18T15:13:49.757-06:002015-11-18T15:13:49.757-06:00I loved your original post about being single and ...I loved your original post about being single and not dating, and I just read this recent update. Thank you for writing, and I hope you do not worry too much about why you enjoy NOT dating! I am trying to get out of a messy, very drama-filled relationship at this point (I am ashamed to admit that I stayed too long in it), so I am actually looking forward to peaceful, quiet, nap-filled weekends with my loving cats. No annoying men around is always a plus!!!!Retired Tri Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07174874895727068410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-79993804948169159182015-06-04T00:50:51.810-05:002015-06-04T00:50:51.810-05:00Got here by way of the Chump Lady. Thank you SO mu...Got here by way of the Chump Lady. Thank you SO much for this column. My last kid left for college a YEAR ago, and I still am not dating. And I am a hermit and I work full-time and I love my alone time. I am an outgoing introvert. I love and hate being single. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-39980764375612597782015-06-02T19:12:12.281-05:002015-06-02T19:12:12.281-05:00I'm at Beloved Burnt Toast - blogs.hardingf.am...I'm at Beloved Burnt Toast - blogs.hardingf.am/amandaDeedahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02386061097583007160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-29831858987528020742015-06-02T00:26:56.441-05:002015-06-02T00:26:56.441-05:00This, a thousand times. I wasn't married to my...This, a thousand times. I wasn't married to my ex, but it's been nearly 10 years since he left. When he left I was a scared young bunny (seriously...I was a baby having a baby) who had ZERO self confidence and had only dated him. As I've grown up I've come to realize that he was an abusive bleep, and that maybe I didn't really know what I was doing.<br /><br />So I'm a little (okay a lot) freaked out about "dipping my toe" back into the dating pool. It doesn't help that my sister is getting married this year (at the "wise" age of 21, yes you can chortle) and my mother has been dropping not so subtle hints about why I'm horrible for not wanting to attend ("You know...this will be the ONLY wedding your daughter will ever get to see....")Mackenzies Mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16518465318448292559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-75808017053667177582015-05-30T10:33:23.465-05:002015-05-30T10:33:23.465-05:00Thank you so much! This really means a lot to me. ...Thank you so much! This really means a lot to me. I'm sorry about no Coscto, that really does suck. <br /><br />I am so happy to hear of a baby Molly! Nobody uses that name, which in some ways is awesome but I always wonder why it's not more popular. Don't be scared about your teen Molly. Mine has become one of my best friends, despite my half-assed parenting. <br /><br />Congrats on the surprise baby! Life is funny, right? I love it when the funnies result in happy things like this. How fun for you!!! I'm sure you're not obnoxious...what's your blog's name? <br /><br />Thank you a ton for commenting and for being here. I hope we connect again :)the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-91981058481207691982015-05-30T10:30:11.287-05:002015-05-30T10:30:11.287-05:00You are so sweet! Thank you. I'm feeling the l...You are so sweet! Thank you. I'm feeling the love lately. the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-44713621433235129162015-05-30T10:29:31.679-05:002015-05-30T10:29:31.679-05:00OMG. Yes, please. And cats aren't sadder. They...OMG. Yes, please. And cats aren't sadder. They're more badass because dogs are eager to please. They are easy. Cats have zero shits to give about us so having them around is no walk in the park. <br /><br />I miss my cats so much :( <br /><br />Are you seriously signing up? Please tell me you're going to blog about it. I have toyed with the idea but my insecurities and my lack of willingness to give up entire weekends of doing absolutely nothing are cockblocking me. <br /><br />Love you, lady.the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-1392901547374007912015-05-29T15:10:10.146-05:002015-05-29T15:10:10.146-05:00Just stopping by to say I love your blog... I'...Just stopping by to say I love your blog... I've been on the hunt for more "mommy" blogs to follow, but not obnoxious, artsy crafty holier-than-thou mommy bloggers, more cool, real world, sorta sarcastic mommy bloggers who are actually good writers. I found you through the Scary Mommy post on Costco, which made me extremely jealous because we have no Costcos near me, just Sam's Club. Boo.<br /><br />ANYWAY, that's just a long-winded way of saying that I admire your writing very much. You and I may not have too much in common (except that my daughter's name is Molly - she'll be 1 in less than a month! Reading your posts is forcing me to imagine her as a teenager and it's making me a combination of wistful and terrified). I used to blog about infertility but now I have a baby through IVF and another surprise baby on the way because isn't life funny like that? So now I blog about being a mommy. But hopefully not obnoxiously. I don't do any arts or crafts.<br /><br />Very glad I found your space. Can't wait to follow along on your journey. :)Deedahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02386061097583007160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-29442166090470453622015-05-29T13:00:46.643-05:002015-05-29T13:00:46.643-05:00Hi Jenny--kind of new to your blog--I have to tell...Hi Jenny--kind of new to your blog--I have to tell you I love it! You are hilarious and I love your outlook on things! I wouldn't worry so much about the dating--you're awesome and I know you will meet someone--until then just keep being who you are and don't worry about it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-16959322040278839352015-05-27T07:50:06.461-05:002015-05-27T07:50:06.461-05:00Okay, I guess one of us is going to have to make t...Okay, I guess one of us is going to have to make the big move across the country so we have someone to drink martinis with in our leggings and binge on "Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt." Your life is my life, minus the dog with a cat instead (which is even sadder). Just this weekend I decided I was over being the single singleton among all my very well-meaning married gal pals and to sign up -- once again -- on Match. Thanks for making me feel a little less alone. xoAmy Byrneshttp://amynameisamy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-8615238205388474242015-05-26T15:55:50.805-05:002015-05-26T15:55:50.805-05:00Sweet jesus. I replaced the Witch name with yours,...Sweet jesus. I replaced the Witch name with yours, Eve!! I'm so sorry :) I have no desire to kick you, I promise.<br /><br />And since you are divorced like me I don't wish any screwing husband things on you either. OMG. I'm sorry, ha!!!!!<br /><br />(my adderall starts wearing off about this time of day)the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-20375786327784196492015-05-26T15:54:24.729-05:002015-05-26T15:54:24.729-05:00At the risk of sounding like a massive, hypocritic...At the risk of sounding like a massive, hypocritical bitch...I kind of hope Eve's husband is screwing at least two women on the side. <br /><br />I don't know what I would have said if forced to listen to that. You are a much stronger, and probably nicer, person than me.<br /><br />Seriously. I want to kick Eve right now.the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-30728480659371916772015-05-26T15:51:55.762-05:002015-05-26T15:51:55.762-05:00Hmmm...maybe this is something we can claim as our...Hmmm...maybe this is something we can claim as ours? The 8 Year Itch? <br /><br />And yes, woe is the woman who has lost her edge. Even just a couple of years ago I knew how to handle myself on a date. How to dress and act and eat and drink. I think the longer I go dateless, the more cave-woman-like I become. And the less inclined I am to put on any sort of act. <br /><br />We are all freaks, my dear. Some of us just hide it better than others. I'm glad you're finding comfort here. That's the reason I write :)<br /><br />Thank you so much for reading!the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-41973102645044236052015-05-26T15:49:08.096-05:002015-05-26T15:49:08.096-05:00Oh Becky. I think of you often, especially when I&...Oh Becky. I think of you often, especially when I'm ready to commit 100% to the wacky aunt lifestyle. I have a weird feeling that yes, there is someone out there for me. I just hope he's better at self-motivation than I am. the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-76715733189719769512015-05-26T15:47:45.342-05:002015-05-26T15:47:45.342-05:00You're so sweet. I haven't had the burrito...You're so sweet. I haven't had the burrito yet...came pretty close yesterday but you have to be in the exact right mood to go to Taco Bell, you know?<br /><br />Thanks so much for reading!the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-55495894456928129512015-05-26T15:23:09.644-05:002015-05-26T15:23:09.644-05:00I had a series of conversations with a person I wi...I had a series of conversations with a person I will call "Witch", this past weekend. It was her 33rd wedding anniversary and she knows I am divorced. In these talks, at a big family party, she repeatedly claimed that marriages only break up when people are "not seriously committed" and "not willing to do the hard work", "lacking in character", "lazy", "just not up to the challenge". "We got it right!", she exclaimed. "Good for us!" It is a credit to my upbringing that she still lives and breathes. evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06834990959313852386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-53271671140313913622015-05-26T14:33:29.422-05:002015-05-26T14:33:29.422-05:00Snap! You have addressed the issues so close to my...Snap! You have addressed the issues so close to my heart that it's kind of scary. That's one hundred percent how I'm feeling emotionally about being single and not ready to mingle. Like you, it's been eight years since my divorce. I'm not sure if I still have what it takes to even flirt with a man let alone try to date one. I know that I have lost my edge when it comes to men. There was a time in my life when I could clearly declare, that I was all that, and a bag of chips; no longer true. Unfortunately, most of my time since my divorce has been geared towards the arduous tasks for trying to stay afloat financially; as an emotionally disabled single parent. Although, it gives me some comfort reading about the insecurities that have plagued other divorced, middle aged people; you particularly. Your candor is a huge relief for me; I don't feel like such a freak show for feeling the way that I do, or why I'm still single. Thank you!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04863775559006947662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-81275103601573356852015-05-26T12:20:30.037-05:002015-05-26T12:20:30.037-05:00I've seen people bash down doors and sweep awa...I've seen people bash down doors and sweep away obstacles and hone in on getting a relationship, with laser focus and, usually, success. However. The most suffering in relationships I've ever seen has been in the lives of these very people. Observation and experience have also taught me that waiting ... just pursuing LIFE, not the elusive "right" man, leads to better outcomes. We get so hung up on what we WANT that we don't realize it isn't what we need. The best times in my single life happened after I said, in disgust, "I'm done with dating!" And now back to the burrito! Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08542352732125805441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-83185501554590882292015-05-25T17:24:33.951-05:002015-05-25T17:24:33.951-05:00Hugs Jenny! I too love my home and Netflix. I'...Hugs Jenny! I too love my home and Netflix. I'm married with 4 kids so time to myself I would love as too am an introvert but...... I can't imagine dating again. The hassle alone would have me not! But you truly have to do what you need. And maybe if you're worried about that birthday weekend at the cabin maybe its a sign that your mind if getting ready. Who knows! Only you will. As an introvert I truly understand how hard it will be to get yourself out there. I hope whatever you want and are looking for come along as you truly deserve everything that makes you happy! Including that 7 layer burrito....... hope it was good. {bonus, you can send the kids out to get it for you!} :) Take care! AndreaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com