tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post4098660236649404468..comments2024-02-23T10:00:32.673-06:00Comments on the happy hausfrau: Not A Creature Was Stirring: Surviving The Holidays After Divorcethe_happy_hausfrauhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-957116463799808622015-12-26T14:13:46.806-06:002015-12-26T14:13:46.806-06:00Well stated! The first Christmas morning without m...Well stated! The first Christmas morning without my kids was so heartbreaking. This was just my second but I do have a "lovah" (ha!) to ease the pain just a bit this year. Now the kids are gone back to their dad's and the house is quiet for the rest of the weekend. <br /><br />Hope you enjoyed the holidays, whether you had your kids or not!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-47487656547459044912015-12-19T02:21:39.020-06:002015-12-19T02:21:39.020-06:00This blog and the humor and the sense that I am no...This blog and the humor and the sense that I am not the only one who feels this way has been so important for me. If I could send you a Corvette with a hot guy, who knows what he's doing, in it-I would! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-61390483734840202442015-12-13T09:08:17.012-06:002015-12-13T09:08:17.012-06:00Totally agree - a little bit stale Red Vines are t...Totally agree - a little bit stale Red Vines are the best! <br /><br />I love your writing. You've helped me to feel not so alone - thank you. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04948272386131328841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-51492614115624512322015-12-10T06:21:16.688-06:002015-12-10T06:21:16.688-06:00"Have you a lovah?" LOVE!
Really thoug..."Have you a lovah?" LOVE! <br /><br />Really though, I love the way you take others by the hand who are newly experienced what you have survived. You're wise and practical, too. Miss you by the way!Nina Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05498476430955493398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-16280131396195044522015-12-10T00:23:35.536-06:002015-12-10T00:23:35.536-06:00Whatever you do, please don't engage in parent...Whatever you do, please don't engage in parental alienation. In the moment, especially the years right after divorce, try to maintain some civility with your ex. Soon enough the kids will know the truth ( because they will actually figure it out on their own) but they don't need to have mom or dad saying horrible things about the other parent. Tale of two divorces; my ex and I maintained a civil relationship (although he vilified me because I left him after 20 years of alcoholism and financial "betrayal" I took the higher road) My now adult children (22 and 25) are my strongest supporters and understand their dad's disease and issues (and yes, he got spousal support, my retirement, money from my savings etc, etc, even though he never met his visitation obligations. I am still digging myself out.) My husband's ex wife engaged in parental alienation, even before the marriage ended, to support her fragile sense of self. His son choose mom since she was granted primary custody (can children be victims of Stockholm syndrome?) 6 years later he is still supporting her (and now her live in boyfriend) because she refuses to work. He continues to pay child support for his son and will pay his college starting next year even though his son does'nt respond to calls, texts or requests for visits. Think before you speak, it is NEVER ok to vent to children, no matter how hurt you are feeling. Call a friend, a relative, your therapist or a 1-800 help line. The damage you do, can last a lifetime. Don't lie to your kids. My new husband is an amazing father to my two "kids" and we would love to have his son be part of our lives. His son hasn't spoken to him since fall of 2013 (when mom's new boyfriend moved in.) My heart breaks for both of them. Clevelandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02622781062835266521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-40473373911891385392015-12-09T12:49:39.349-06:002015-12-09T12:49:39.349-06:00I thought of another one; hang out with some of yo...I thought of another one; hang out with some of your friends of the Jewish persuasion as they usually go out for Chinese food, a movie, or just chill with them!grenee229https://www.blogger.com/profile/14997338725198139106noreply@blogger.com