tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post2368692199877012346..comments2024-02-23T10:00:32.673-06:00Comments on the happy hausfrau: What do Led Zeppelin and Butt-Dialing have in common?the_happy_hausfrauhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-1705124361958495662013-01-05T10:43:31.066-06:002013-01-05T10:43:31.066-06:00You are a FABULOUS nerd, Lin.
To be honest with ...You are a FABULOUS nerd, Lin. <br /><br />To be honest with you, I did think deep thought about sticking with it just for the security. I thought how nice it would be to not freak out about money on the first of every month, about how cool it would be to be able to maybe afford an extra car for the teenagers, to be able to get off the reduced price lunch program, etc. But then reality kicked in and I knew I'd go insane. <br /><br />Thank you for chiming in! I've been keeping up on your blog but have been a shitty commenter. Have to catch up today.<br /><br />the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-26787267054436958022013-01-05T10:40:23.281-06:002013-01-05T10:40:23.281-06:00Dang it Becky..if you weren't married already,...Dang it Becky..if you weren't married already, and if one of us was a guy....<br /><br />Sorry. You had me at "I grew everything that's in this spaghetti sauce".<br /><br />I'm going to have to pick your brain about starting a garden here. I haven't attempted to grow veggies in YEARS but you've inspired me. <br /><br />And YES I love that part about the list. McCain had way too many girlfriend qualities. He even drank margaritas. I need a man's man. the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-54315016522381552812013-01-03T19:35:33.260-06:002013-01-03T19:35:33.260-06:00Bummer. Sucks that it didnt work out but if your g...Bummer. Sucks that it didnt work out but if your gut was telling you from the start that it wasnt meant to be then it just wasnt meant to be. Ha, I guess you could say when your gut wasnt getting your full attention it asked your squishy thighs for help. <br /><br />Yeah, I'm a nerd. As tempting as it would be to marry for money, there needs to be love there. Im a cheeseball so love's always a must in my book. Dont worry though, I doubt you'll have trouble reeling in another fella ;)Linhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14180987728892745670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-47959607836018333792013-01-03T18:54:23.182-06:002013-01-03T18:54:23.182-06:00FOOD IS MEGA-IMPORTANT!!! My ex considered a can ...FOOD IS MEGA-IMPORTANT!!! My ex considered a can of Spaghettios to be dinner, whilst I raised garden-fresh produce and made everything from scratch. While working full time! One night I said, "I grew everything that's in this spaghetti sauce, and everything in the salad is from my garden, too!" He was like, meh. Basically, eating to him was like putting gas in the car. <br /><br />So yes, it is perfectly acceptable to put "Must like vegetables" on there! My list had "Must appreciate fresh, healthy food" or something akin to that. Food is BIG.<br /><br />Hint: Don't put anything on the list that would require the man to have the qualities of a girlfriend. It is the secret to marital happiness: Do not expect a man to be a girlfriend.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08542352732125805441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-83903364685435751462013-01-03T08:54:07.142-06:002013-01-03T08:54:07.142-06:00Becky...I am going to start my list today. Did I m...Becky...I am going to start my list today. Did I mention that McCain doesn't eat vegetables? Like, EVER? I didn't realize that until this round with him. And funny, that was a bigger turn off than a few of the other "quirks". <br /><br />So, somewhere on my list will be: Must eat veggies. I used to say that I'd know when I met Mr Right when Walter (my dog) didn't try to eat him. Maybe I'll have to change that to "Must like Brussels sprouts".<br /><br />Thanks for all of your insights, support and laughs. I appreciate all of them! And by the way, I do love your blog. Someday, when I have time and money, I'm going to cook like you.<br /><br />Jennythe_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-12945857476507082772013-01-03T08:48:59.580-06:002013-01-03T08:48:59.580-06:00Yeah Buffy! That reminds me, I need to find time t...Yeah Buffy! That reminds me, I need to find time to watch Angel now :o) I got sucked into Game of Thrones and it's all haughty accents and filthy beards. I need some vampires!<br /><br />Thanks Salish. I would love to enjoy a glass of wine or whatever with you one day.<br /><br />Jennythe_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-86931989274398783022013-01-03T08:46:17.836-06:002013-01-03T08:46:17.836-06:00Thanks JSC! The more I analyze this relationship t...Thanks JSC! The more I analyze this relationship the more I realize how much fun a therapist would have dissecting it. Someday soon we'll get together and toast the new year and all the new beginnings it holds.<br /><br />Thank you for your steadfast support and friendship!the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-88367626048655326932013-01-01T21:04:54.999-06:002013-01-01T21:04:54.999-06:00DO NOT PROGRAM BF NUMBERS INTO CELL PHONE. EVER. ...DO NOT PROGRAM BF NUMBERS INTO CELL PHONE. EVER. JUST MEMORIZE THEM.<br /><br />Talking honestly with girlfriends about men is what we do. We HAVE to do it, like breathing. You were doing what you have to do. That fate and physics intervened seems deliciously serendipitous! Maybe he was SUPPOSED to hear those things about himself! As my mom told me, "Men are here to grow and learn, too, you know. Not just to be what you want them to be."<br /><br />This man's purpose in your life is to show you how incredibly important it is to truly be yourself, and how wonderfully fine yourself is. <br /><br />Safety and security are illusions.<br /><br />I used to get actual visions of traffic signals, with certain guys, like your warning lights! It's a cool system ... I think God uses it. <br /><br />Maybe you are ready for The List! I made a list of 12 qualities a man that I could marry must have. Twelve years later I met him. Honest, Jenny. Aim high.<br /> <br />In the meantime, you are gearing up for some of the best times of your life. Keep watching the signals! <br /><br />Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08542352732125805441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-1256907507816248882013-01-01T17:13:55.139-06:002013-01-01T17:13:55.139-06:00JCS says it all the way I would've, so I whole...JCS says it all the way I would've, so I wholeheartedly second those emotions! :)<br /><br />(And yeah, any woman who digs Buffy has EXQUISITE taste in TV!)<br /><br /><br />Onwards and Upwards babe, <br /><br />--SalishSalishnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-52505611077945104182013-01-01T14:54:04.144-06:002013-01-01T14:54:04.144-06:00Jenny, dear, you MUST stop beating yourself up for...Jenny, dear, you MUST stop beating yourself up for the "thigh-dialing" incident (OMG, that is EXACTLY how my late, great mother would have started this message...). That you felt bad about possibly hurting McCain's feelings even accidentally shows what a genuinely kind and compassionate person you are...but listen, it was an ACCIDENT. You had no idea your thighs were calling him (sorry, there's no way I can put that that doesn't sound very funny), or that he could hear your conversation. You are NOT in any way a bitch, a mean girl, or any of those awful things. You are guilty of NOTHING except honesty. And frankly...if he had no idea that you had these concerns, then he is out of touch with YOUR feelings, and hopelessly insensitive. <br /> You have absolutely done the right thing by listening to your intuition, paying attention to those red flags, and ending it. His not knowing who Led Zeppelin are is only the very tip of the iceberg, indeed...even his rather questionable politics are. He doesn't like dogs?? Has NO interest in meeting your kids?? What kind of a heartless turd is this? And if that didn't gall me enough...I REALLY hate that he was so condescending to you. Barking directions at you? Getting mad that you looked at your phone? Cutting down the TV you watch? Listen...we very rarely watch TV because we just have no interest in most of what's on, and have things we'd rather do, but all the same, I think your TV taste is far better than most...I mean, you like the GOOD shows! So who the hell is McCain to act like his shit doesn't stink?<br /> I'm gonna answer that question myself, actually. I think he was such a jerk because he felt threatened by you. He's not so stupid that he couldn't tell you are far smarter, kinder, and light-years more interesting than he is (no doubt you have many more friends, too), and he couldn't handle that. NO ONE needs someone like that in their life -- that is a sure recipe for toxic soup.<br /> I am VERY VERY proud of you for figuring out what was wrong with the relationship, for being so honest with yourself, and for having the sheer courage to get out. (That, and for having such an elegant way with weaving Led Zeppelin song titles into a story. And for being such a great person, but I digress...) YOU DESERVE WAY BETTER. I have known, and known of, other people who have married for money and security -- and been thoroughly miserable. It is never ever worth it. And now you'll never have to know it firsthand!!<br /> Hope the New Year brings you much happiness and good luck in every way...and relationships only with guys who truly cherish and value you for the awesome person you are.JCShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18206618987380198579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-73295497359226916392013-01-01T12:05:21.660-06:002013-01-01T12:05:21.660-06:00Thanks Mommy. I think you get it. I LOVED your l...Thanks Mommy. I think you get it. I LOVED your last blog post and it really got me thinking. Thank you for that. At this point, I'm thinking a relationship may be too much work...but you're absolutely right: we'll have the one we're supposed to have. I guess that holds true even if we're not supposed to have one? Wow I'm getting deep...<br /><br />Thank you so much for reading, hope you and your sweet boy have a wonderful year.<br /><br />Jennythe_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-2258350333357470662013-01-01T12:02:42.875-06:002013-01-01T12:02:42.875-06:00Thank you Sil. I think if more of us followed our...Thank you Sil. I think if more of us followed our hearts, the world would be a happier place. I wish you and your loved ones a really awesome 2013!! <br /><br />Thank you for reading!<br /><br />Jenny the_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-45548473330041357362013-01-01T12:01:41.668-06:002013-01-01T12:01:41.668-06:00We'll have a longer chat about it sometime soo...We'll have a longer chat about it sometime soon. Happy New Year to you and yours, old friend!<br /><br />Jennythe_happy_hausfrauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07372773477740551839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-49829718071292430552013-01-01T11:11:34.467-06:002013-01-01T11:11:34.467-06:00Hey! Sorry things ended the way they did. I think...Hey! Sorry things ended the way they did. I think you and I are close in age and I will say this for me personally, I can't and won't ignore red flags...ever. It's just not worth it in the end. I think I ignored red flags with my ex(3 kids with 3 diff women and never married) and I'm now a mom parenting primarily on her own; something I never wanted to be. If you are really open to a relationship, you'll have the one you're supposed to have. Mommyof1https://www.blogger.com/profile/11824673780478974604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-28083786373261985692013-01-01T10:17:39.040-06:002013-01-01T10:17:39.040-06:00Always follow your Heart. Wishing you many prosper...Always follow your Heart. Wishing you many prosperous things in 2013.Silnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7377914227915645124.post-34087133918364390992013-01-01T10:11:22.975-06:002013-01-01T10:11:22.975-06:00I was wondering what happened so thanks for sharin...I was wondering what happened so thanks for sharing your story. I didn't know you had so many differences but I'm glad you figured it out and ended it. Happs my friend. grenee229https://www.blogger.com/profile/14997338725198139106noreply@blogger.com